Years ago, as a new mother, wife, and entrepreneur, I remember feeling exhausted and frustrated. I was raising a healthy, happy baby boy, with a loving, sexy, providing partner, and working barefoot in yoga pants, moving my body for a living.

Sounds like a dream, right? 



Yes, it was my dream but something was off. In hindsight, I can see that I was living from an old unconscious belief that said that who I was, was not “enough”. So without consciously knowing it, I was giving my life to this depleting belief and thus unconsciously creating habits based on it, such as working more, eating for comfort, being there for everyone but ignoring my own needs, and on and on.

When you believe that you’re not enough, there’s always more to do to become that “perfect, deserving” person. You can’t ever rest and receive and you don’t feel worthy. 

One day the realization popped in. I decided that I needed more pleasure in my life and it was up to me to do something about it. Fortunately, it was a decision that stuck, as those that come at our lowest points tend to do.

I think this was the moment I truly began to fall in love (with myself, my husband, and life). 

I put a stake in the ground and committed to making pleasure a priority and never looked back.

 It’s been years since I first made this commitment to myself and what’s wonderful is that I am still discovering new ways to find pleasure, and of course, always deepening my capacity to love and receive love.

Whether your pleasure cup is half full or you’ve yet to start one, no worries! It’s not too late to make a pleasure habit as important as that morning cup of Jo or Matcha. 😉

You can start by filling your cup with cacao and joining me and my amazing Sister Cheryl Mirabella for a Valentine’s Day Cacao Ceremony.

Remember that when you know you are worthy just for being, you know better how to love and be loved and it’s a win-win!

Would you like my support in unlocking your pleasure to access more confidence, sensuality, and connection than you ever dreamed possible? Schedule a 15-minute pleasure chat with me.

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